Synastry
is a very powerful tool to understand the dynamics of a partnership by comparing the
birth charts
of two people, but
challenging aspects
between the charts like squares, oppositions, and tough conjunctions create tension and conflict in a relationship. While these aspects seem troublesome, they also come along with opportunities for growth and to establish better connection if they are correctly navigated.
Recognize the Challenges
One of the easier ways to tackle challenges is recognizing where the conflict springs from.
A square between Mars- the planet of action, and Venus-the planet of love, in synastry may symbolize how you express love or commit to your desires. Once you know about these differences, then both partners consciously work on them, rather than instinctively reacting.
Open Communication
Tough aspects are usually indications of areas where misunderstandings take place. There should be open and frank communication about working out these tension points. When the Sun of one opposes the structure and restraint of Saturn, one of the partners may feel stifled by the other’s ruling need for control. Only discussions and communication can dissolve frustration on issues that concern boundaries and expectations.
Balance Individual Needs
Oppositions in synastry represent areas where each person has differing needs, requiring balance and compromise. If your Moon (emotions) opposes your partner’s Mercury (communication), you may feel emotionally misunderstood. You would learn to appreciate differing insights or approaches if you recognized each other’s emotional and intellectual approaches.
Growth Through Conflict
The challenging aspects force involved people to grow. Don’t shy away from the pain; instead, give these conflicts an opportunity to work on personal understanding and limitations. For example, a square between Pluto (transformation) and Mars (passion) can create power struggles, but it might also teach that both partners must learn to let go of having to control so that they can finally relate to each other better.
Essentially, challenging aspects in synastry are not necessarily deal-breakers as they can deepen intimacy if approached with awareness, patience, and a willingness to grow together.